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Sometimes, it helps to set a deadline.

This can be true when we face unsolved problems, or are struggling with a tough decision.

That does not mean a deadline is written in stone. It means that we are establishing a time frame to help ourselves not feel so helpless and to help bring a solution into focus.

We donapos;t always need to tell people weapos;ve got a deadline. Sometimes, itapos;s better to be silent, or else they may feel we are trying to control them and may rebel against our deadline. Sometimes, it is appropriate to share our deadlines with others.

Deadlines are primarily a tool to help ourselves. They need to be reasonable and appropriate to each individual situation. Used properly, deadlines can be a beneficial tool to help us get through difficult problems and situations without feeling trapped and helpless. Setting a deadline can help move us out of that uncomfortable spot of feeling victimized by a person or a problem we canapos;t solve.
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